Frustrated Bliss

When you are a little girl dreaming of your white wedding. Planning all the color scapes and sketching out what your dream dress will look like you never think that anyone could ever spoil your wedding planning. No, in our imaginations we think its all smooth sailing and that everything and everyone will come together like magic.
The truth is: the wedding planning process can reveal a lot about you and your fiance- and it sometimes it just ain't pretty! It can also be extremely stressful for everyone involved and for many, many brides, what should have been a wonderful memory down  the road will be a time sprinkled with spite, chaos, confusion and wrong things said. Here are some tips to get through this treacherous time:

1~ It's your wedding. Yes we all know that, but that does not mean you get to be a Bridezilla. Just becuase the T.V. has glamorized that behavior does not make it acceptable. Act like a lady. You will thank me later.
2~ Listen to the opinions as just that - opinions. Just becuase your mother gives you an opinion does not mean you have to take it, but you can listen politely and then discuss the idea. In the end, it's your choice and if you decline respectfully, you will have a more peaceful experience than if you just shut someone down in the middle of their ideas. They are excited too and sharing things that they think will make you look amazing and ideas to enhance your day. They may not be your style but that's okay- that's what the planning process is all about.
3~ Fiance's do matter. DO NOT, and I repeat, DO NOT shut your fiance out of the process just becuase he is a guy. He is your future hubby and he does matter. He is not a dorky oaf that is only needed when you want to hear from him or you need the credit card. This is his wedding too and he CAN have an opinion. Try to find ways to include him if he wants to take part. Shutting him out will only set things in motion you will later regret.If he does not want to be involved, find out why. It's okay if he would rather you take care of the filly details, just make sure that this is his choice and no one else's.

4~ Take a Premarital Education Class. They are free all over Texas and they will teach you the skills to communicate more effectively and resolve conflict in an effective manner. Doesn't that sounds nice? No fighting, or arguing, or stonewalling, just you two coming to a solution that you both agree on, together? That is what building a healthy marriage looks like. You can call the shop and we can tell you when the next FREE Twogether in Texas Class is coming up. There is almost a class every weekend in North Texas so there is no excuse!! This are the things that will help you learn to manage conflict and save your marriage for many years to come.

5~ Breath. I know it seems like a big deal, and don't get me wrong - it is, but in the end this wedding will not change the quality of your life. So if things don't go right, it's ok. Just relax and enjoy the fact that family and friends are joining around you and the love of your life to celebrate you making a life together. That is the important part.

Hope this little interlude helps to remind you of some important details that brides tend to forget. if you need help when planning your wedding, please call- we do this every day and we have tons of ideas from stress relief to cake stands! Let us help and don't go it alone We want your experience during this time to one of joy and fun! If you find it getting to be too much, pick up the phone and call Provi.